“The more I get older, the more I realize that the foundation a person was built on is everything.“
That’s my quote, by the way. I watch my children grow and I watch myself. I watch the people around me and how they interact with each other, who they choose to be everyday, what they like and dislike. Even who they decide to date and love. All of these come from one single thing: their foundation.
Now, a foundation isn’t just one thing. It’s basically your inner voice and your morals. And it is also your view points and beliefs in reality and its relationship to yourself. Your parents are strongly tied to this foundation. I realized it’s half of what they say to you and more of how they act in front of you.
My children, for example, I talk my son’s ear off. I tell him how to behave and how to act…but I might not be perfect (MIGHT). And how I behave in front of him is something he absorbed so much more, regardless of what I said. It didn’t matter when I was behaving one way.
Recently, I changed my actions and instantly I saw a difference in his behavior and his mood. His foundation isn’t completely set yet, so I still have time to adjust it and correct any cracks or faults. I realized it’s the actions that create it. He doesn’t even have to be included in the actions, either. I just have to do it in front of him.
What’s the first thing you look for in a person?
I used to answer this question with what I felt was ideal: a nice person, good morals, loves GOD, eats healthy. All that is great and important for me, but it can easily be said by one word: FOUNDATION.
Because a foundation is watching your family and how they resolved problems. A foundation is the building block to your perspective on life when it gets tough. Your foundation is how you act towards people you say you love and if you can correct mistakes easily. All of these things come from foundations. Beliefs and perspective.
My Foundation
I have freaked out in front of my children and now, he freaks out. I was a poor example of emotional regulations. It is something I am not proud of and I am correcting every single day. Regardless, it also comes from my foundation.
As a child, I watched my father punch a television because he was angry. I do recall punching a few things out of frustration and though I overcame punching items in high school (because that shit hurts), I still struggled with anger. That’s something that I want my child to experience, let alone WITNESS!
Though, I have good things in my foundation. I love eating vegetables and my mother helped with that. She always told me what my body needed and how each food will help my body (and in what way). Till this day, I enjoy finding out exactly what I am eating and what it does for me. Did you know grapes have calcium in them? I didn’t until recently. And beans as well.
Look at me, talking about stuff that isn’t on topic…it’s because I’m interested in it. Yes, well, my mother really helped my foundation. She taught me to be a good person. It was important to her and I truly feel like it is important to me. To be a good person and to raise good people…even in strangers and people I meet outside of my family. I want to sow seeds of goodness everywhere I go.
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